I've been reading this book called The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. My wife brought it home and I picked it up. There's one chapter in there called 'Overcome Gridlock' which is about overcoming those really difficult things that we argue about that neither side seems to want to back down on and that have been a problem over a long period of time.
The book says that these arguments arise because each person feels that their 'dream' is under threat. These dreams are not the usual nocturnal type, but are more the things that people are looking for in life e.g. 'My dream is for my husband to love me, care for me and make everything alright like I'm a princess'. Get the idea?
Well, today I realised what mine is. My dream is to marry and spend the rest of my life with someone that accepts me for who I am. Now I'm not saying that this is entirely realistic, I have as many bad habits as the next person; but now I realise, from my side, what the basis of of those 'gridlocked' arguments is. Hopefully now we can make some progress.
Does the book in question offer a compromise or a solution fro when such difficultues arise?
ReplyDeleteAt any rate, not long ago, I suspect, you asked me on my blog how to put a poll on yours. Use the Design link on the upper right corner of your blog, click the relevant "Add a Gadget" link and choose the poll form the list. It's really not hard.